Two of the most common questions asked during my solo travels are "aren't you scared?" and "why are you doing this?" Should I be? And if so, why am I not? After reading an interesting article about women on the road, http://theamericanreader.com/
I feel it necessary to say I am not a feminist. I do not want to burn bras nor have an ax to grind. I merely like to share my experience as it relates to the greater whole, when and where I see fit. As a woman with the desire to explore, adventure and connect with people from different places and spaces, I am here to say there is nothing wrong with me. I'm not running from anything, nor do I need protection to do so.
The conversation was interesting, yet somewhat frustrating because they hadn't been given the opportunity, as I had, to make a choice whether that was the life they wanted, and it was instead an obligation. Another experience while visiting Indiana, with a young woman in her early 20's, went similarly. As we talked over orange juice at the local Denny's she explained that she was going to community college solely for her "Mrs." degree. Not having heard of a "Mrs." degree I asked her to explain. She said it was to pass the time until she got proposed to by her boyfriend, at which time she would become a housewife and mother. When I asked if that was what she wanted, she began to cry and told me that she wasn't very smart and couldn't be anything else. Confused, I asked who told her that and she said her father and brothers.
From experience, the decision to follow curiosity and dreams is not an easy path. Around every corner there lurks outdated views from men AND women about how women "ought" to act.
I'm not the stereotypical woman, yet I'm a woman nonetheless. A woman who has challenged what path to take, not out of spite, not out of anger, but just because it's how I've chosen to live my life. My hope is that instead of viewing women that choose alternative lifestyles as broken, hopelessly lost, or property for men (more on that in my upcoming book), we can accept and learn from the differences these women provide.